It is very challenging to engage in race and gender discussions with US folks without being yelled at. It is a very tender subject, I agree – but people outside the US sphere find it difficult to talk about the issues. Do we then walk on egg shells all the time?
Bear in mind that the US has many privileges that the rest of the world do not have. Worse still is that we have the US as a cultural yardstick and that our youth are consciously and unconsciously still assimilating in all the norms from the States.
Yes, the us sff sphere isn’t perfect and most of the time, it is incomprehensible for people observing from the outside. Am I blaming us sff? Yes and no. Yes, for the toxic culture wars it has dragged the rest of us in. No, because they have to deal with their own imperfections and flaws first.
And yes, I am still working to make it a better place. Let’s focus on SEA SFF, promote our own people, mentor young writers etc.
Oppression Olympics bugs me, because it derails the discussion of important issues by using arguments of “not all marginalized groups…” or “my marginalized group is more marginalized than yours!”.
I have first seen the term used during RaceFail 2009 and well, this term is still being used by groups of people or individuals. Look, I am aware and knowledge hurts because of said oppression(s), but I also think that using said oppressions as shield or derail do not help the issue.
We have all experienced oppression(s) or are hurt by microaggressions, due to our gender/race/orientation/class. I think it’s safe to say that many of us are still healing from the paper cuts and wounds inflicted by every day microaggression or just the awareness that we are oppressed and are pained because of it.
The trick then is to move on or beyond.
How are we going to make things better?
How are we going to change or modify the situations?
Are we ready to make changes?
For Xiao Xiao fans…